A lot of men visit Thailand every year with the sole aim to have sex with as many Thai girls as possible during their stay. A quick search on the internet will quickly notice a recurring theme:
Come to Thailand and meet the sexy girls, where you are guaranteed to find the Thai girls of your dreams and live a happy fun filled holiday.
Thats the kind of over simplified headline you see every day on the internet.
Poor Thai girls with a limited educational background
Do Thai girls have more relaxed views on prostitution?
This article has been co-authored by two Thai women (who are happily married to Europeans for the past several years) and an American who has spent a considerable time in Thailand and . All authors had full editorial independence to freely express their views. The authors are largely in agreement with the final version. The article is presented in first person voice in order to make it easier to read.
Its fairly common to see a lot of men come to Thailand seeking a girlfriend perhaps, to marry and seek a more long term relationship in general. Indeed its very common a lot of people in the former group to turn into the latter. But often, the single biggest mistake they make is they look for it in the wrong place as you will see later in this article.
Given the fact that youre reading this article, theres a good chance youre either just looking for some quick action or are contemplating a long term relationship with a good Thai girl. The good news for you is, youre not alone! The thousands of foreignersvisit Thailand for a sex holiday, but often end up in long term relationships with Thai girls.
The old saying goes that there is someone for everyone and in Thailand that is definitely the case for a single white male. The reason being, Thai girls tend to favour Western men over all other races including Thai. Some say its because they like the skin tone, others say its to do with our build but one thing is for sure, there are plenty of reasonswhy Thai girls love Western guysand prefer to steer clear of the average Issan village kind of guy.
If youre ready and open to explore the world of Thai girls then get comfortable because this might take a while but by the end, you will know everything you need to make the most of the journey ahead of you. A journey of adventure and excitement. Ill show you thebest way to meet university girlsand reveal the secrets to turn your online dates into an offline one in the shortest possible time. Youll also learn how to avoid the biggest mistakes that could leave you with an empty wallet and a broken heart. Lets just say its going to a wild ride.
Be warned though, once youve dated a genuine Thai girl, theres no way youre going back to dating girls from your home country. So proceed only if you can deal with that!
Now, some of you are probably thinking to yourselves, Why Thailand and why Thai girls? Thats definitely a good question and here are some of my answers:
You definitely wont run out of pretty girls to pick from in Thailand, no doubt! From skinny and hot pale skinned women to some of the tanner yet stunningly beautiful girls, they are definitely a treat for our eyes! While you may think that other countries also boast their own beautiful list of hot girls. Theres no other place like Thailand that delivers a uniquely classy look while keeping that drop dead beauty!
If I had to summarize what women from different parts of the country look like, this is how Id do it:
Women from Northern regions of Thailand are cutest, those from the East are the sexiest, and those from the Central and Southern regions are the hottest. Of course, its just my personal opinion, so take that with a pinch of salt.
Ive always heard that Thai girls are super crazy about the hair and beauty products they use in their everyday lives. They go the extra mile to find out what is actually good for their hair or skin. And youll definitely notice it the first moment you step out of that aeroplane. Their hair is the kind of hair you see in commercials from supermodels!
Lets face it. Compared to the girls in Thailand, a lot of western girls have very large and plump bodies. Its just a different gene set (and a lot less McDonalds). And I wont judge because thats actually a good thing for a lot of guys who are into big bodied women.
Now if youre like me and love a girl with a nice, slim figure then Thai girls are definitely for you. Youll notice how slim and fit their bodies are the moment you lay your eyes on one! Theres definitely a big difference between a western girl and Thai girl when it comes to their bodies.
Just tuning in to some Thai TV programs has made me realize how slim and petite they really are! Ive dated my own fair share of western girls and some of them were definitely slim too, dont get me wrong. But most of the girls I dated in Thailand had near perfect bodies! Dont take my word for it, just search it on any search engine and youll know! Just be sure you are on a girls page and not a ladyboys page. See advice above for pointers.
Of course, its not all about the looks right? I know a lot of guys out there look more on the personality of a girl rather than her physical traits (although you definitely wont lose if youre just looking for the physical traits of a woman when looking for a Thai girl!)
Ive definitely met my fair share of girls in my adventures here in Thailand and here are some of the personality traits you should probably expect when dating them:
Many men have also come to me, asking me Ive picked the wrong girl for me! What should I do?
While many women share similarities with one another, no one Thai woman is ever the same. There are many different types of Thai girls out there as there are many different types of men as well.
Some of the girls youre going to meet come from poor families and are very down-to-earth while others come from the middle-class part of the Thai society. You will probably also get to meet some girls from the higher echelons of Thailands wealthier families whose financial income will not only rival yours but will probably even surpass it! Some of these girls worked hard to get to where they are so they know what life is about.
Some of these girls simply inherited their vast wealth and know nothing about spending it or making good use of it. You need to truly understand the psyche of a Thai girl in order to have a better chance of finding someone you like. Here are some examples:
You will find plenty of these girls in the northern parts of Thailand (Isaan) and if you are looking for a simple, down-to-earth girl that will understand your needsandyou plan to settle down in Thailand, then these girls may be for you for you. While its not an ideal situation, if youre planning to get into a relationship with someone in this group, we recommend you read through the next few paragraphs to make yourself aware of the additional complexities that may arise in such a relationship.
Poor Thai girls from the northern parts of Thailand (Isaan and surrounding regions for the most part) usually have limited education compared to their counterparts hailing from middle class or well to do families in Thailand. Ability to speak English might be non-existent. This might make it difficult to carry on long conversations unless the two of you choose to learn each others languages. This is changing gradually as more and more have access to the internet and try to learn from TV shows etc. Dont be too surprised to find yourself dating a Jersey Shore clone or someone from a music video. They pick up the mannerisms and the accent and it can be quite funny and endearing. I once dated a girl who kept saying
Oh my gawddddd in a thick New Jersey accent. Ok she got annoying after a month but it was fun for a while.
Considering their limited education, they find it difficult to get a regular job, which means you will be the primary bread winner of the family.
This type of relationship might be ok for youifyoure planning to settle down in Thailand, because given her limited English (or whatever language is spoken in your country) ability, she may have a difficult time socializing with other people in your home country which could lead to loneliness and frustration for her although more and more I see Thai girls living in many countries around the world and they always find each other with, you guessed it.. Social media. So get her a phone and an internet connection and things could be perfectly fine. She will also love the chance to talk with family back home via Skype etc. And when she is happy you can be assured she will make you happy too. It might also be a good idea for you to learn Thai if youre going to settle down in Thailand and get accustomed to the life in Thailand.
Another challenge that she is likely to face is because she comes from a poor family she will be constantly judged for being a gold digger especially if there is a significant age difference between you two. Like it or not, there are always judgemental people. Some will automatically assume she is a Pattaya bar girl and you will have to proactively protect her from being unfairly judged.
Speaking of the age difference, a girl from a poor family is likely to make bigger compromises and settle for less with regards to their partner. She might be willing to get into a relationship with someone twice her age even though it might not be her first choice. However, I recommend you keep the age difference between you and your partner to a reasonable gap because people in vastly different age groups tend to have vastly different lifestyles and this could take a toll on your relationship pretty quickly.
On the positive side, one great thing about dating poorer girls from Thailand is that they tend to have simple tastes. If youre not the type of guy who likes to showboat and please everyone, then youll probably do well with these girls. They will appreciate even the simpler things that you give them so long as they come from your heart.
Simple gifts will do just fine. Simple dates in simple places like a homely dinner in their local town will be more than enough. Its more of the quality and less of the quantity with these girls. Just make sure that they feel loved and they will love you back with all of their heart.
In short, you will have to carry most of the relationship with these girls because they usually tend to be insecure about their upbringing in life. They will be happy to play second fiddle to you and will need lots of assurance that you love them because love is one of the things that keep them together despite the hard times them and their families might be facing.
Middle-class girls from Thailand usually have worked hard to get to where they are. You can expect most of them to have a college degree at-least. Most of the time, these girls will have a regular day job or own a small business and earn enough to support themselves.
These women are mostly concentrated in the urban regions of Thailand and are used to a modern lifestyle. Ability to speak English will be middling to good in most cases. Youll be able to easily carry off a conversation on various topics with the women in this group.
Exposure to western culture is limited to what they might have seen in the movies or television. So while they might not be completely used to western culture, cuisine or lifestyle, it wont be completely alien to them either. Adaptability to a western lifestyle will also be high if you plan to settle down in your home country.
They will have a say in all family matters, but might be willing to give in to your opinion on important decisions.
Your odds of hitting it off are highest with a woman in this group because the social compatibility is fairly high in most cases. If you find such a person and plan to settle down with her in your home country, chances are shell be able to find a job there and lend a helping hand with the family finances. If this is the kind of girlfriend youre looking for, online dating apps are your best bet to find them, because you certainly wont find them in Thai bars
The very wealthy girls of Thailand! To my surprise, there are actually a lot of them! From my experience, I would split them into two groups.
The ones who were driven and made their wealth through hard work and perseverance and the ones who spend most of their nights clubbing, drinking and just wasting away their lives wherever they can with their dads credit card.
Do yourself a favour and dont date the girls who inherited their wealth. Dont get me wrong though! Ive actually met some girls who were rich from their inheritances and some of them were really nice and realistic. But thats a rarity that Im pretty sure most men wouldnt be willing to take a chance on.
Then there are the girls who worked hard for the most part in their lives in order to achieve the wealth they have now. These girls are all different, ranging from business women, high ranked employees, investors, doctors, lawyers, etc.
Getting to know these girls would probably be great because they would teach you a thing or two about how to make money for free if you got to know them well! These girls also had great quality education early on in their lives so the language barrier wont be a problem at all.
However, since these girls are used to the high life, theyll probably expect the same from you as well.
Theyll want to know that their boyfriend is capable of supporting himself because they wont want to date a male gold-digger! They will naturally expect their boyfriends to have a similar social and economic status on their own and perhaps also a decent educational background.
Theyll also want you to show them that you know how to treat a lady well. They wont necessarily appreciate the simpler things and will want to see that you can play with them at their level. They will also open up many opportunities in Thailand for you and your business.
They will have an equal say in all family matters and your relationship will truly be on equal terms.
To some guys, these girls are usually too hard to maintain and they end up having broken relationships. I do know some guys who were willing to take the challenge and actually succeeded in having happy relationships with these women.
The only way youll be able to meet such girls though is through direct introduction via your friends and associates or via some elite match making agencies.
Dont let the shy and generally conservative nature of the regular girls that you see on TV or in the movies sway your opinion.
Ever since I came to Thailand several years ago, Ive made friends with many men from all over the world who later went on to be in relationships with a woman as their Thai girlfriends or spouse and its extremely rare that I have heard any of them complain about the lack of physical intimacy with regards to their Thai partner. If anything, they only had praises for having found a new, happy and an exceptionally satisfied life when it comes to physical intimacy with their partners. The fact that they are very private in public gives way to stories and gossip that they are cold and unlovable but this couldnt be further from the truth.
Dont believe me? Do a Google search to find people complaining about an unsatisfactory sex life with a Thai woman. What you will see are numerous sex related stories but none of them will mention a poor sex life. Of all the things youll find people complaining about, lack of physical intimacy isnt going to be one of them.
Well let a Thai women who co-authored this article answer this question in her own words:
The question here is not as easy to answer as you would imagine.
First up you have to ask yourself this, if you were asked a very personal question like that would you answer it honestly? I think if you were completely honest with yourself the answer would be no or its unlikely.
This is also true for Thai girls. So while the ones you ask may say that Prostitution is disgusting or frowned upon or tell you they would never do something like that. The simple truth is many are lying or to put in a fairer term, they are too embarrassed to tell you the truth.
Being a Thai woman who has lived in Thailand most of their life I can tell you this is an accurate assessment.
I know many girls both in the trade and outside of it and while they may not like prostitution they are certainly more open and aware of its benefits especially in regions where there is very little else to do to feed their families.
Many will not talk openly about it but if its what they need to do then they will simply go and do it and just not talk about it. Of course if you ask their friends or family where they have gone you will get made up stories or flat out replies of mind your own business but for the most part this is to save face but both parties know that the other knows exactly whats going on.
You will also find that many Thai girls will be very accepting of others if this is the path they have to take and will often help take care of the girls child or parents while the girl is away working.
In truth the only Thai girls that will be or pretend to be offended and disgusted are the Hiso crowd.
Hiso being the term Thais use for upper class high society girls. In reality many of these are married into the Hiso life and were probably in the game at some point and landed themselves a white knight.
Of course there are many Thai girls that will be against the profession but no more than in any other country and I would guess it to be far less.
Many of the cleaners and food vendors would jump at the chance to make more money and perhaps meet their Knight but without being cruel they just dont have the looks to be able to do it and have to make do with the lower paid work to get by. Obviously I am not suggesting that all cleaners etc want to be prostitutes but ask yourself this, when was the last time you saw a beautiful Thai girl cleaning a toilet or selling street food? Yes there are a few but not many.
For the lucky ones born into money they will go to college or get a job with an airline etc. but even still some of them will resort to prostitution to supplement their money or simply because they like the excitement and the fun of being wined and dined and bought gold etc.
I know a very well educated girl that has been in and out of the game all her life and could have a regular decent paying job but chooses to live the Gogo girl lifestyle.
So to sum up, yes Thai girls do have comparatively more relaxed views on prostitution. Its a necessary evil that has given many a life they would never have had without it.
Thai girls are very very friendly, approachable and so easy to get along with provided to cross the first and only barrier dont come off as an obnoxious sex tourist. If youre nice to them and respect them and their culture, theyll return it in kind. Once youve crossed the sex-tourist barrier, youll have absolutely no problem in making friends.
Given how Thai guys mistreat their women, you can have a huge leg up by just being nice. Be polite. Make a joke. Youd be surprised how receptive Thai girls can be by just being nice to them!
And once they accept you as their partner, Thai girls will happily open the floodgates to your deepest, wildest fantasies. Trust me, they know how to treat their men right! And youll have a far far better time having a real girlfriend than visiting the seedier areas of Thailand. If youre one who is only looking for some short time fun, that fine we wont judge you. I personally know plenty of people started of that way, but ended up in a committed relationship soon enough.
With the explosion of internet and Thai singles apps, it has now become easier than ever to find a woman via online dating in Thailand. Its really easy to find thousands of beautiful women on Thai dating apps.ThaiCupidis the grand-daddy of all Thai dating apps and youll find atleast a thousand women online at any time. Another alternative isTinder. While Tinder does not have as many users online, the crowd there is younger of the two.
But finding one and finding the right one are two very different things. You can easily find a date but after the first meeting will she be the one that you stay with or will she be like one of those Bar Girls you have heard about in Thailand that only wants you for your money? There is no doubt that theseGoGo girlsexist but are all Thai girls the same? Is the Thai girl you meet going to be a real girlfriend or is she going to be a Walking Street professional and take you for everything she can get from you?
A lot of these girls come from very poor areas like Issan and move to Phuket or Pattaya to make a living in the bar industry. They usually find jobs working as a bar girl in what a called asGogo bars. They do it in the hope that one day they will meet their White Knight and break free from the game to go on to live a happy life.
So how do you meet a good girl and find a Thai girlfriend thats different from the ones you have heard stories about? Its all great fun to partake in the Pattaya nightlife when its for a week or two but when you want a permanent girlfriend well thats a whole other story. What we are about to show you is everything you will need to spot the gold diggers and opportunists. We will show you how to not only find a Thai girl but how to find a decent Thai girl and hopefully make her your girlfriend and possibly Thai wife all going well.
Dating Thai girls is really easy. If youre not already in Thailand, your best bet is via a Thai dating app. Just install on your phone and youre all set to meet and chat with thousands of pretty, single Thai girls (and other Asian girls from South East Asia). If youre already in Thailand, you should still consider online dating as it gives you an opportunity to chat with thousands of potential partners and get to know them before you decide to meet in person. Moreover, if youre planning to visit Thailand soon, its a great way to get to know someone online first and make a plan to meet them in person when you arrive.
Once youve met someone you like and are planning to meet in person, you need to make yourself aware of Thai dating culture. We have an entire post dedicated for you so you canknock her socks off in your very first encounter. Its important to make yourself familiar with Thai dating culture and take advantage of the dating tips to impress your potential girlfriend. Its important because youd want to come off as a nice guy and not yet another sex tourist. Youre surely not the first person to have asked her out, and there is a good chance she is going to bejudging if youre boyfriend material. So I strongly recommend you read through the linked article because the rules of engagement when dating a good girl in Thailand are vastly different from what you might be used to back home or even what you might have read elsewhere.
If youve ever dated a Thai girl before, youll probably know that a lot of them are incredibly shy! Youre most likely going to make the first move when it comes to these girls so make sure to practice those pickup lines! They being shy is also a good thing as its not fun to hang around with a woman thats loud and noisy, for me anyway. Im more into girls who are a little quiet yet are fun, gentle and kind.
Id actually prefer being with a girl whos shy than being in a relationship with a woman who talks a big game but doesnt have anything to show for it. Shy girls tend to hide their talents so youre in for a lot of surprises the more you get to know them, which is really fun in my opinion!
Dating a shy girl is like slowly opening your Christmas present. The more you peel from the gift wrapper, the more of the gift you see youre probably thinking right now Okay, Im game with dating a shy girl. But what if theyre so shy that they end up being a killjoy?
Dont worry; I was worried about that too at one point!
Thailand is home to one of the biggest Transvestite population in the world. So much so, youd be hard pressed not to come across some Ladyboys orKathoeyas they are called locally. Now a word of warning. Never call a ladyboy a Kathoey to her face. They hate that word and regard it as an insult so if you dont want to feel a size 9 stiletto up your rear end its good to keep that in mind
Heres a pop quiz for you. Which among these is a ladyboy?
The lines between a regular woman and a ladyboy are often blurred here in Thailand. And its not uncommon for people to find themselves in a situation where they make a move on a woman only to realize she isnt. On the other hand, some people actively seek out ladyboys for company. We got so many requests from readers asking us how they can tell if someone is a ladyboy or not we wrote an entire article on their life and lifestyle including a detailed section onhow to spot ladyboysbecause it can get darn difficult to tell and lady and a beautiful ladyboy apart.
As you may already know, Thailand is naturally a beautiful country with a lot of naturally beautiful women in it. But its also a country with a dark side you only need to take a trip to places like Phuket or Pattaya to experience the seedier side of things. The Pattaya nightlife is definitely not for the weak or the faint hearted and can ruin a man very quickly if he is not careful. You only need to Google Walking Street Pattaya nightlife to see exactly what I mean. If you dont know how to handle yourself in Thailand, I assure you; youre definitely gonna get burned. Dont worry though, because with a little bit of help from this article and some common sense you will be on your way to a happy future with the girl of your dreams. Beyond all the glitz and the glamour ofThai nightclubs and barslies a very deep social circle that can only be penetrated by the elite few. The ones that know how to avoid the tourist traps and undesirable elements that the newbies fall into.
If you dont pay heed to my advice here, you can be sure youll end up with a broken heart and an empty wallet. Ignore at your own peril. I strongly recommend you make yourself familiar with all thedating scamsthat are out there so you dont find yourself in a situation youd regret later. Any Thai girl that is currently in Pattaya or Phuket please avoid unless you want your new girlfriend to be like a GoGo dancer and GoGo away with all your money or at least double (even triple) ensure she has a darn good reason to be in these places.
I can tell you from experience that Thai girls can have a bad side too! Despite the beauty that Thailand offers the many people that live there, theres no doubt that it still suffers from a lot of economic issues and these issues often spawn people who want nothing but your cold, hard cash.
Some women have found out that the best way to make a lot of money is by dating foreigners on online dating sites and by fooling them into a relationship where the guy gives them money all the time to make them happy. You should realize that your girlfriend shouldnt need your money in order for her to be happy in your arms. Such women are very prominent in Thailands red light districts (Pattaya or Phuket in particular) and if you dont know how to spot one, youll probably end up getting victimized by their endless games. Here are a few excellent ways on spotting scammers and gold diggers whose only intention is to part you with your money.
But before you paint everyone with the same brush, or misjudge someone, lets first understand what a gold digger is and is not.
A persons financial stability is a key factor that plays an important role in any womans decision in choosing a potential mate. Which is a logical and realistic trait. After all, in a long term relationship, there are bound to be ups and downs, and money can be a cushion to some degree. Its also natural for a woman to be concerned about herself and her childrens future when getting into a relationship with someone.
So while someone who genuinely loves you will valueyoumore than anything else, a gold digger will valueyour ability to providefor her more than anything else. And a good person will appreciate your financial resourcesas well asyour relationship. However, a gold digger will appreciateonlyyour financial resources. Such a person will likely leave you for greener pastures as soon as your ability to provide for them with a lavish lifestyle stops.
Money is usually the subject at hand when it comes to gold diggers. They usually demand and command you to buy high priced bags, gadgets and other glamorous items for them. While weve met a lot of girls who want presents from their boyfriends to make them feel special, theres a difference betweena girl who wants a loving presentversus someone who wants nothing from you but your money. If you start to notice that your girl is always demanding something expensive from you then thats probably a good sign to leave because chances are, she appreciates your wallet more than yourself! And believe me; Ive dated such people before. Theyll suck you dry then leave you as soon as the money stops flowing.
There are different types of scam artists working the naïve foreigners on holiday in Thailand. The experienced scammer might fool you by talking about your hobbies and the things that interest you. She will bide her time and work the long con. Eventually, though the conversation will lead to them asking you f