It doesnt matter if youre fat or thin when you love. Because love doesnt focus on the outward appearance but on the beauty of your soul inside.
For those who scorn chubby girls, it may be a surprise for them that someone can actually simultaneously be happy and chubby.
In fact, nothing about a chubby girls appearance make them unworthy of great love, awesome sex, and respect.
A chubby girl has been through a lotalready especially in todays culture. We live in a culture that defines them as unhealthy, a problem, ugly, and unhygienic.
So, if you like a chubby girl right now, make sure you are serious about getting to know her. The B.S. and disappointments she has faced in the past are enough.
Here are four things you should know about dating a chubby girl:
When you date a chubby girl, make sure you are serious.
Dont date her if you just want to humiliate her. Dont get involved with her if you just want to try her out because shes big in all the right places.
These reasons are very dehumanizing and hurtful for them. Most chubby girls develop trust issues when it comes to anyones ability to love them.
Chubby girls navigate in a work that constantly tells them of their unworthiness. It simply means that no matter how confident they are, they are still subjected to proving their worth.
You may meet the most confident chubby girl in the world but it wouldnt change the fact that the society will try to convince them that they should hate themselves.
Chubby girls need support to thrive. If you like a chubby girl, provide her with safety and care. Do not make her feel guilty for oppressive beauty standards that you have no control over.
A backhanded compliment is a remark which seems to be a compliment but is meant to be an insult.
The best example of this is when a man says: I love a woman with meat on her bones. it may sound encouraging but when you think about it, it is stripping you down to animalistic meatiness.
Unfortunately, this is the most common pick-up line from people whowant to flirtwith a chubby girl. It hurts because no one wants to hear that your basis for wanting them is because you arent attracted to someone else.
Sexualizing, fetishizing and racializing bigger women carries dehumanization and violence behind it.
If you appreciate her, just tell her straight.
You are more than your body, but I love appreciating your beauty.
When in a relationship with a chubby girl, there are some things you cannot do especially if you weigh less than her. Youre probably not going to do that cute piggyback thing couples do in movies.
Also, the rules of physics state that you cannot pick her up and carry her in your arms if she falls and hurts her ankle during a zombie apocalypse.
So before you get into a relationship with a chubby girl, be prepared to think about them. Think about the sizing of seats in restaurants or stadiums, how she cant wear your clothes, how you travel (bus, train, or airplane, what kind of bed we get, etc.).
It matters because it means you are thinking about how you can be a good boyfriend to her.
Now that you know how to treat a chubby girl, here are the 10 reasons why chubby girls make the best girlfriend around:
Chubby girls are interesting to date because of their ability to talk about anything. Since they know they cannot reach societys standard of being sexy, theyve often made it a point to focus more on their brains and their personality. So, they can engage you in a variety of topics that will keep you from being bored.
Chubby girls know that their looks will probably not get your attention like curvy and petite women. However, they make it up with their charming and sociable nature that will click with you in no time. They may not be skinny sexy but they have an attitude to die for.
This is a generalization but pretty women dont always have an endearing personality. Think about the movies you watched with beautiful but mean girls.
It may be because they know theyre beautiful in the eyes of the world so they feel entitled. They think the world of themselves, dont expect them to be all that nice towards you.
However, that is something you wont have to deal with when youre dating a chubby girl. Most have a fun and bubbly personality and they dont feel that the world revolves around them. It makes it easier to deal and hang out with them.
Warmth can be understood physically and emotionally they are both. Physically, they feel warm when you hug and cuddle them. Emotionally, they are welcoming and having them by your side feels like home.
Theyre not afraid to gain some weight. You can have food trips with her because shes open to trying out different type of delicacies.
So if you happen to enjoy trying out new dishes, dating a chubby girl will not dampen your foodie spirit. They enjoy having a good meal so you can expect them to be more than willing to try out different restaurants and cuisines with you.
Chubby girls, just like any woman, loves to hug and cuddle. So if youre the type who enjoys getting some cuddles, then you cant go wrong with dating a chubby girl. Of course, you need to provide them with the same amount of affection.
Additionally, they have softer and plumper skin compared to skinny girls. It makes hugging and cuddling them all the more fun.
When you have problems or youre stressed, chubby girls are good comforters because when you lie on their bosom, your problems tend to billow away like light smoke.
Chubby girls wont reprimand you for playing too many video games. They are not shy of participating in your favorite pastime provided it wont require them to exert any effort.
So, you can watch your favorite TV show or play your favorite video game without a fight. They are more open and willing to bond with you and learn more about your favorite activities.
Every man enjoys a woman laughing. Most chubby girls laugh at the easiest jokes you can tell even when they are not very hilarious. Since theyre not too concerned about their appearance, theyre not worried about what they look like when they laugh out loud. That makes them more fun to be around with.
Guys who date slim women often have to fend off guys trying to steal them away. However, if you date a chubby girl, they dont conform to some of the mens standards. So, this is something youll rarely experience when dating a chubby girl.
As a result, you can go anywhere without fear of having your girl being stolen from you.
Chubby girls, just like other girls, are also human. They are not willing to suffer through a relationship with someone who might be detrimental to their mental health and survival.
So, if you like a chubby girl, just be yourself with them. They arent asking for too much they just want to be fully and radically loved.
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